Quotes by Families of Homicide Victims
Issue quote: Vicki Schieber, on Victims - Testimony before the Maryland State Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee. February 21
The death penalty has failed victims’ family members in virtually every way, and many of us – including many who support the death penalty in principle – have come to support its end.
— Vicki Schieber, whose daughter Shannon was murdered in Philadelphia
Issue quote: Jim O'Brien, on Victims - Jim O’Brien, “Death penalty punishes victims' families, too,” Morristown Daily Record, No
A serial killer ripped Deirdre away from us in 1982. My family had no idea, then, that our ordeal was just beginning. All we knew was that the worst of the worst had happened, and the person who did it should pay the ultimate price – the death penalty. From 1982 until 1990 I lived day to day, appeal to appeal, decision to decision. We woke up every day wondering what might happen that day. Will there be another appeal? Another motion? What new decision might come down? The toll it took on me and my family was horrendous… Eight years of trials and retrials changed my mind about the death penalty. I learned the hard way that the death penalty is an albatross over the heads of victims' families.
— Jim O’Brien, whose daughter, Deirdre, was murdered
Issue quote: Janice Greishaber, on Victims - Testimony, December 15, 2004
I’m here to tell you, as the Mother of a homicide victim, that the death penalty brings as much pain as it does relief, that it creates an entirely new layer of pain.
— Janice Greishaber, whose daughter, Jenna, was murdered
Issue quote: Miriam Thimm Kelle, on Victims - Testimony before the Montana House Judiciary Committtee. March 1, 2009
When my brother was murdered I thought I was supposed to support the death penalty... Little did me and my family know then that when Michael Ryan was sentenced to death, we were sentenced too. Our sentence has been going on for 20 years and there has been no execution. For 20 years it has been all about Michael Ryan. He is all my family and I ever hear about. Jim is never mentioned… Having seen what the death penalty has done to my family, I have since changed my mind and now think it should be abolished.
— Miriam Thimm Kelle, whose brother, Jim, was tortured to death
Issue quote: Sandra Place, on Victims - Testimony before the New Jersey Death Penalty Study Commission. September 13, 2006
Nearly eight years since the jury delivered the verdict of death, I am still forced to focus on my mother’s killer. If the killer were given life without parole, and I mean a true life sentence, I would not be here. I would not be forced to discuss the killer and the verdict and the ways in which my life has been affected. Each court date, each appeal, each write-up in the newspaper, revisiting and revisiting the pain, each event keeping me that much further from the curative process I and my family so greatly deserve.
— Sandra Place, whose mother, Mildred, was murdered in 1999
Issue quote: Renny Cushing, on Victims - Letter to the editor, cited by Murder Victims’ Families for Human Rights newsletter, Sp
The death penalty offers a false promise of closure to victims’ families, who are led to believe that an execution will bring relief. While families wait through the lengthy, roller-coaster appeals process, reliving our original pain again and again, the focus remains on the murderer rather that on the victims or on our own anguish as surviving family members. The death penalty is a distraction from victims’ real needs, not a solution.
— New Hampshire Representative Renny Cushing, whose father, Robert, was murdered
Issue quote: Richard Pompelio, on Victims - New Jersey Lawyer. December 26, 2005
In my 15 years as a victims rights lawyer, I have represented many murder victim families in death penalty cases, and the additional anguish caused by the justice process is overwhelming. When I first see a client, I silently pray the prosecutor will decide against pursuing the death penalty, but not because I am against that form of punishment. My prayers are for the victims and the hope they will be spared the pain, isolation and despair the death penalty process will inevitably bring.
— Richard Pompelio, New Jersey Crime Victims' Law Center, whose son, Tony, was murdered
Issue quote: Vicki Schieber, on Victims - Testimony before the Maryland State Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee. February 21
Capital appeals go on for decades after the initial trial. Most cases are reversed at some point, placing victims’ families in limbo. With each court decision, the murderer’s name is splashed across the headlines while the family waits helplessly for the next ruling, wondering when the sentence will finally be carried out... The pain of this emotional roller coaster can be astonishing in its magnitude. Where are the victims in this process? How are they served?
— Vicki Schieber, whose daughter, Shannon, was murdered
Issue quote: Judy Kerr, on Cost - Death Penalty Information Center press release, October 20, 2009
The death penalty won't bring my brother back or help to apprehend his murderer. We need to start investing in programs that will actually improve public safety and get more killers off the streets.
— Judy Kerr, California, whose brother was murdered
Issue quote: 49 MD murder victims family members, on Cost - Letter to the Maryland Commission on Capital Punishment signed by 49
It is vitally important that our state address the needs of surviving family and friends as we struggle to heal. We know that elected officials who promote the death penalty often do so with the best intention of helping family members like us. We are writing to say that there are better ways to help us. The death penalty is a broken and costly system... and victims' families like ours don't want it.
— Letter urging repeal of the death penalty signed by 49 Marylanders who have lost a loved one to murder, Aug. 19, 2008
Issue quote: Sarah Gardener, on Victims - Testimony before the Maryland Commission on Capital Punishment. August 5, 2008
I am also thankful that my daughters, ages 16 and 12, have not inherited the legacy of years of capital appeals that would have concentrated focus on the offender and his execution somewhere in the distant future. Instead, my focus is on sharing with them my fond memories of the aunt they never got a chance to know. My daughter Clare recently won a writing prize for a poem called "Nancy" in which she comments astutely on the transmission of family memories through stories she has heard her entire life. I am glad those stories weren't tainted by the dark cloud of capital punishment.
— Sarah Gardener, who sister, Nancy, was murdered in Washington, DC
Issue quote: Vivian Penda, on Cost - Gazette.net, October 28, 2009
If we are serious about helping victims' families, we should go ahead and repeal the death penalty, sparing them the agonizing wait for cases to come to an end. Eliminating the death penalty will also save the state money that could be reinvested to provide more meaningful care for the families of murder victims, something I know from personal experience is lacking now.
— Vivian Penda, whose son, Dennis, was murdered
Issue quote: Marty Price, on Victims - Testimony, August 5, 2008
There were times when I felt like I, myself, could have injected the man who killed my stepmother and 16 year-old stepsister. But that man is my father. I was 23 years old when my father committed his heinous act of violence and it initially left me with many questions of why. But, I can also attest that my father's violence is directly related to the inner strength which has continued to develop in me across the years. As strange as it sounds, his anger taught me perseverance; his lack of self-control taught me the value of self discipline; his alcoholism taught me to take care of and respect my body; and, his hatred taught me to love.
— Marty Price, whose father killed his step-mother and step-sister and whose nephew was killed in the line of duty
Issue quote: Vicki Schieber, on Cost - Testimony, February 21, 2007
After a murder occurs, victims may have a variety of perspectives on exactly what will bring them justice or healing. But we can all agree that preventing the murder in the first place would have been the best use of state resources.
— Vicki Schieber, whose daughter Shannon was murdered in Philadelphia
Issue quote: Bonnita Spikes, on Victims - Testimony, August 5, 2008
Over and over, I have found families in dire need of support and traumatic grief counseling services... Most don't have any insurance. Nor are they resourceful in knowing who to go and beg for help. I have come to know people, young and old, who have little or no access to professional help coping with their overwhelming loss. For most of these families, the notion of a death sentence for their loved one's murderer isn't even a remote thought. They are struggling to hold their households together, to help their families grieve and survive the trauma one day at a time.
— Bonnita Spikes, whose husband was murdered, and who works with other homicide survivors in Baltimore
Issue quote: Bonnita Spikes, on Cost - Testimony, February 21, 2007
From my personal experience struggling for good mental health care for my son, I believe family survivors of murder victims would be much better served if the resources wasted on the death penalty were used to provide quality mental health care for the victims and survivors of violence.
— Bonnita Spikes, whose husband was murdered, and who works with other homicide survivors in Baltimore
Issue quote: 63 NJ murder victims' family members, on Victims - Letter to the New Jersey State Legislature signed by 63 New Jers
We are family members and loved ones of murder victims. We desperately miss the parents, children, siblings, and spouses we have lost. We live with the pain and heartbreak of their absence every day and would do anything to have them back. We have been touched by the criminal justice system in ways we never imagined and would never wish on anyone. Our experience compels us to speak out for change. Though we share different perspectives on the death penalty, every one of us agrees that... our state is better off without it.
— Letter to the New Jersey State Legislature signed by 63 New Jerseyans who lost loved ones to murder, May 10, 2006
Issue quote: Joanna Barlieb, on Victims - Testimony before the New Jersey Death Penalty Study Commission. September 13, 2006
I can testify from experience that our current system is most unjust for the victims and their loved ones. I can only hope to save other families from the grief of the never-ending appellate process. I promote the substitution of the death penalty only with a life sentence that truly means life in prison with no possibility of parole.
— Joanne Barlieb, whose mother, Cynthia, was murdered
Issue quote: Kathy Garcia, on Victims - Testimony before the Maryland Senate Judicial Proceedings committee. March 6, 2008
The capital punishment system may have been put in place to serve us survivors, but it actually has been a colossal failure.
— Kathy Garcia, trauma expert and aunt of a murder victim, who used to support the death penalty
Issue quote: Kathy Garcia, on Victims - Testimony before the Maryland Senate Judicial Proceedings committee. March 6, 2008
The criminal justice system is hard enough on survivors. When the death penalty is added to the process, the survivor's connection to the system becomes a long-term and often multi-decade nightmare that almost never ends in the promised result. I have watched too many families go through this over the years to believe that there is any way to make the system work better.
— Kathy Garcia, trauma expert, victims' advocate, and aunt of a murder victim
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